How does this happen?
This happens in stages,
a. the initial stage is euphoria, when the new couple is partying and having a lot of fun with their friends.
b. in stage two, the couple might excuse themselves from group activities to spend time alone.
c. in stage three, one of the partners might start finding faulty behavior patterns in the other group members.
d. in stage four, fights between the couple or between the group members might arise.
e. in stage five, the couple will completely cut itself from the other members of the group, just meeting at sometime for obligation sake.
Why does this happen?
The common psychological reasons for this to happen is:
a. obsessive or possessiveness nature- if one of the partners in the new couple is extremely possessive, he/she might prevent the other from interacting with their friends.
b. jealously - if one of the partners in the new couple is jealous of some other member of the group, he/she might will play mind games to make sure they move out of the group.
c. need for personal time - if a couple doesn't get enough personal time or privacy, they might want to spend quality time with each other instead with the group. This eventually alienates them from the other members of the group.
d. lack of common activity- many times guys love to drink and talk about sports, but girls hate the same... a lack of common ground activities might create a psychological friction in one of the partners to interact with the group.
e. insecurity - a highly insecure partner might develop fear or suspicioness on other members of the group. He/she might feel they want to break the couples unity and would press for complete seclusion.
f. taking friends for granted - sometimes friends take others for granted. They always expect them to be present for them. And don't realise when they are drifting apart.
thanks for reading,
Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, PGDPM, MBPS, MD(mindmantra))
free online counseling - eksoch@gmail.com
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