Learn how to control Men.

1.) Just say hi.
An international survey showed that men love it when a woman takes control and makes the first move.
"Just go over and say hi,"
You can go wrong with this tactic.

2.) Don't show-off your knowledge, create a challenge instead.
Ego kills the charm.
The more knowledge or discussions you get into, the less affection you develop.
Real Men love a challenge. So learn the art of gently poking fun and laughing... Teasing is a great challenge which makes men run after a girl.

3.) Learn to Listen.
The most important step after you have crossed the initial "hello" stage is to create a space in the guys heart. This can only be done if you listen to him.
I know you are eager to talk and share so many things with him, but before you reach that stage, make sure the guy is under your spell.
"you give something to get back a lot"
learn to listen.


4.) Ask guys questions
Real Men are Raw... While a new age breed spends hours in front of the mirror, those who are determined to achieve success in life, are out there doing something.
Ask a guy about his workout, his friends, his cars, his bikes and his likes and dislikes.
Don't jump to give an opinion about everything...
I once counseled a very successful Senior Manager in a Fortune 500 company, he was a great success in his profession but a bigger failure in relationships... He used to say "I know I'm not the best-looking guy, But the only thing that look for in a girl is to understand that all this money, cars, gadgets are my way of expressing love for her."

5.) Touch therapy.
Some men are desperately physical.. They just want to be touched and hugged all the time...
The greater lot is not. They like to keep it light and specific in public.
Learn his "comfort points".. were a light touch will send signals all over his body.
Learn the importance of  "pressure" in a hug.
become his touch therapist.



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Sexual changes in both Men and Women due to Diabetes

Age and sex are two friends who constantly need to work upon their relationship. It's been proven that if taken in the positive way, sex can actually become a very relaxing and liberating experience with age.

One of the major reasons for Sexual Problems as one ages is the development of Diabetes. A devastating disorder. One of its more debilitating effects is the severe damage it causes upon urological and sexual blood and nerves.
While the sexual dysfunctions are common in both men and women.

Common sexual changes experienced by Men with diabetes
a. ED or Erectile Dysfunction - the inability to have a firm and satisfying erection. Estimated to be present in 55-75% patients, its known as the biggest havoc of happiness, manhood and successful relationships in middle aged men.

b. Retrograde Ejaculation- Retrograde ejaculation is a condition in which part or all of a man’s semen goes into the urinary bladder instead of coming out through the tip of the penis during ejaculation. It occurs due to weakening of the sexual muscles.
It's easily identifiable when the patient notices a decreased quantity of semen being discharged during ejaculation or presence of semen in the urine.

c. Premature Ejaculation - It's the inability to sustain any form of erection (firm or flaccid) for a long time. The partner normally complains or a man can feel how his ejaculation time has decreased. Creating dissatisfaction among the sexual relationship.


Common Sexual changes experience by women with diabetes
Many women never come out in the open to discuss their sexual problems. Also many tend to keep following their partners wish. This doesn't discount the wide presence of sexual changes experienced in women suffering from diabetes. These include:

a. Dyspareunia  or Painful Sexual intercourse - Increased blood sugar is known to decrease uro-genital functioning. A lack of vaginal lubrication, vaginal dryness, vaginal infections (fungal, UTI, bacterial) are some of the commonest signs that lead to a painful sexual intercourse.

b. Decreased or no desire for sexual activity - Diabetes can induce both a psychological and physical depression, whereby the lady has a decreased desire for sexual activity. As this increases, it creates a negative image in her mind, whereby sexual activity is not even thought about.

c. Decreased or absence of sexual arousal-  Physical damage by Diabetes to genital nerves and blood supply chain can cause lack of pleasure sensations in the genital area. This increases or in many cases completely stops the sexual arousal mechanism of the mind.
"Turning on the heat" becomes extremely difficult in between the sheets.

d. Decreased or absence of Orgasm - The prime aim of any sexual activity is to attain orgasm. If the aim is not fulfilled the activity becomes worthless.
As already discussed Diabetes, increases the blood sugar levels, which eventually destroy the genital nervous system, leading to complete absence or extremely faint feeling of orgasm.


TREATMENT
1. Control of Blood Sugar Levels.
2. Sexual Consultancy that has to focus upon the following:
a. Understanding the love - a communication bridge has to be opened and developed between the partners. Whereby they are able to express their physical needs.
Even though a temporary inability to satisfy the need, alternate methods have to be openly discussed for both partners sexual satisfaction.

b. Careful Pharmacy - one of the easiest routes taken by majority of people is ask the nearest chemist what medications to take. The Chemist uses his general knowledge to prescribe something. The instant pleasure can lead to excessive future damage.
Consult a professional sexologist, endocrinologist or urologist to get a complete checkup of your problem.
Poping medications is not the solution to everything.

c. Exercises and diet - a specific aphrodisiac diet and similar exercises can be given to the couple. To increase the love and bonding, some exercises include stimulation by partner, which helps to increase intimacy and love.

d. Medical treatment- any infection has to be treated to prevent unwanted pain during the sexual process


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Durex Sex Survey - Interesting insight into the world of Sex

Durex the international brand in sexual health products conducted a worldwide survey. And here are the results.

1. What’s your number?
According to a Durex survey, men across the globe have had an average of 13 sexual partners throughout their lifetime, while women have had seven. 

Guys and girls often shy away from honesty when it comes to discussing their number; too low and they fear embarrassment, too high and they face being judged.
According to the survey just 66 per cent of people are content with their ‘number’, while 22 per cent wish they’d slept with less people and 12 per cent would have liked to have slept with more.

2. Pop your cherry
The average male loses his virginity at age 16.9, while apparently females hold off, on average, until the ripe age of 17.4. 

Popping your cherry, deflowering, or whatever you want to call it, having sex for the first time is a significant part of anyone’s life and isn’t something that shouldn't be rushed into without proper knowledge.

3. Happy ending

Expectations of sex are often unrealistic due to farfetched portrayals of the act on the big screen, adult movies and TV. The truth is through research suggests that only 29 per cent of women reach ‘the big O’ or get an orgasm every time they have sex. This is far different when compared to a 75 per cent of men.
Why is it so?
This may be because, according to Durex, due to the couples lack of knowledge about sex, 75 per cent of all women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone,  and 10 to 15 per cent have untreated psychological problems due to which they never climax under any circumstances.

4. In the mood for love
The study showed that for 56 per cent of women, men’s facial hair is a strong trigger for sexual arousal. Apparently, a man with three days’ worth of stubble is more sexually attractive than a clean shaven man.  

In case of men its a long, steamy kiss that gets 35.4 per cent of men aroused and in the mood for love.

5. Weekly quota
Busy lifestyles, manic workload, hectic social life; who has time for sex every day? On a more realistic note,  Durex survey showed that 67 per cent of adults have sex once a week and only eight per cent have it once a day or more. 

The key is whatever works best for you –being honest with your lover will keep you both in check of each other’s sex schedules.

6.Fake it to make it
It’s not uncommon for guys or gals to fake an orgasm, either to prevent themselves or their partner from embarrassment or a feeling of inadequacy under the sheets.
Upto 30 per cent of women would fake it so as not to upset their partner. While 26 per cent said they would be frank if they couldn’t climax. Eight per cent of women even admitted to making it a regular habit!
Fakers are at higher risk of getting into depression, looking for extra-marital affairs or having a feeling of incompleteness. 

7. Sex secrets
Being honest and open about your sexual needs and desires will help improve your overall sexual satisfaction by teaching your partner how to press all the right buttons and keep you blissful in the bedroom. However, only 58 per cent of people are comfortable with telling their lover exactly what they want in bed, which is probably why only 38 per cent are fully satisfied with their sex lives.
This is one of the main reasons for both men and women looking for sexual satisfaction outside their relationship. It cannot be denied that a health sexual life is equally important as a healthy emotional life.

8. Masturbation or Do it Yourself
According to the Durex survey, self-pleasure is widely practiced, with 83 per cent of people across the globe stating they have self-pleasured at some point in their lives.
43 per cent of men and 22 per cent of women repeat the act more than once a week, making it a really common sexual activity. 

9. How long and how often?
On average, sex sessions last between three and 13 minutes. 50.4 per cent of men would want it to last for 30 minutes while 25.5 per cent would want sex for 15 minutes.
Incorporating sex into your life does have its benefits, including stress relief and increased energy, but there is no right or wrong quota you need to hit – we’re not all bunny rabbits!

10. Better with age
65 per cent of over 50s are sexually active, with 46 per cent claiming to have sex once a week. 85 per cent feel that sex at a more mature age is less pressurised than when they were teens or young adults, suggesting that sex can get better with age (like many things in life).

For any further assistance on this topic or any other emotional, sleep, memory or sexual health related issues feel free to contact me at-

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Sex and Sun Signs - a Micro-guide on how to satisfy your partner based on Sun Signs

Sex and Sun Signs
Sex is really important to keep your relationship sailing smooth forever. It is not just about physical pleasure but by giving in, you are expressing 'trust' that you have in your mate. It reflects affection, care, love and a feeling that you are wanted. If your sex life has gone for a toss, you have to work on it before your relationship is hit hard. In fact, sex has the power to put an end to conflicts in your relationship. So, discover your partners' passion points through their sun sign and keep the magic in your relationship alive.

Aries:
When your lover is Aries, sex is best if it's spontaneous and unrestricted. Their heads are erogenous zones-they love it when you mess up their hair and grab their face when they are making love. They are especially aroused by their partner's sexual organs.

Taurus:
When your lover is Taurus, the sexual nature involves all of the senses. Touch and smell are supremely important to these lovers. These lovers don't have a reputation for spontaneity or variety, but they are good at what they do nonetheless.

Gemini:
When your lover is Gemini, use words in bed with them. Talk turns them on, and they love to kiss! Oral pleasures are extra special for these lovers. They love role-playing, as long as it is varied.

Cancer:
When your lover is Cancer, you'll get one of the most sensitive and sweet lovers. They are turned on by slave scenarios, and they may like it when you're a little mean and aggressive in bed, as long as they know you love them.

Leo:
When your lover is Leo, the fantasies often revolve around devotion and attention. These people are most turned on when their partner thinks they are gods or goddesses. They can sometimes come on too strong, and get impatient when their needs are not met soon enough.

Virgo:
When your lover is Virgo, there is generally a healthy attitude towards sex. Simple and sweet is the way they like their bed partners. They can be a little insecure about their own bodies, and they make up for it by paying close attention to their methods of turning you on.

Libra:
When your lover is Libra, extra care is taken to please the partner. They love working on getting things right, and are especially turned on by role-playing sex games. They are givers in bed, but they fully expect you to give equally in return.

Scorpio:
When your lover is Scorpio, the sexual nature can be quite complex. These lovers are willing to do almost anything, and they enjoy full-body pleasures. The most passionate of all signs, Scorpios are known to have sex always on their mind.

Sagittarius:
When your lover is Sagittarius, sex is treated rather like a sport. Laughing and rough-housing are huge turn-ons. The best way to approach sex with these people is to just do it.

Capricorn:
When your lover is Capricorn, sex that is straightforward and simple is generally best. They can be quite happy with consistency, as variety is less important to them than is security in sexual expression. Do not expect any creative or zany positions, but expect it to be good.

Aquarius:
When your lover is Aquarius, there is a 'take it or leave it' style that can be sexy or maddening, depending on the audience. Sex from a distance, like cyber or phone sex, or affairs that don't break up marriages, can be especially attractive to these folks.

Pisces:
When your lover is Pisces, a subtle approach to flirting and sex is taken on. In general, they prefer non-verbal expressions of love and are attracted to imbalance. Self-sacrifice, compassion, and even religion can be mixed into their sexual expression.

(original article from the yahoo india website)

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Female - Inability to achieve Satisfaction?

In India Sexual problems in Women largely go unnoticed as they are either shared with friends or gynecologists. In both cases just a "pep talk" is offered in name of counseling or treatment. It's a reality that upto 20% of divorces are due to curable sexual problems in one of the partners. One of the commonest problems is in achieving an Orgasm or attaining a climax during sexual intercourse. 

Why is an Orgasm or climax needed?
The initiation of a sexual act drives the body of both males and females to release a lot of hormones. An orgasm is the complete utilization of these hormones to positively stimulate the entire brain-body mechanisms. Inability to achieve an orgasm or climax leads to a lot of free floating hormones that lead to negative stimulation of the brain-body, leading to excessive irritation, anxiety, anger, stomach troubles, increased heart beat, lack of happiness and clinical depression.

How does inability to achieve orgasm affect a relationship?
Every human being looks for sexual satisfaction. Inability to attain so, many women might withdraw from having physical intimacy with there husbands and achieve the same through external help like masturbation.
Lack of satisfactory physical relationship puts a major strain over the relationship as both the partners drift away from each other causing minor issues to become major fights between them. In many cases the fights increase to such an extent that it leads to divorce.

The most common reason for this is:
While men get pleasure from stimulation of Penis, women get the same from stimulation of clitoris. Most women who complain of incomplete sexual intercourse, happen to receive a lesser than normal stimulation of the clitoris.
Unfortunately due to popular belief and lack of information, many woman (from housewives, to lawyers to bankers) tend to blame their male partners for sexual incompetence.
Men who are refereed to as "superman in bed" are natural subconscious practitioners of complete clitoris stimulation. 

Solution?
1. Sex Positions- One of the most common reasons is sex-positions. Most people never experiment with their sex positions. A couple should find a sex position that's adequate to make sexual intercourse physically enjoyable and psychologically fulfilling for both partners.

So here are some sex positions that might help- 

1. A face-to-face position, but the man 'rides much higher' than he would in the missionary position so that his shoulders and head are about six inches higher up the bed than normal.
What this means is that his penis doesn't go all the way into the vagina. Instead, the stem or root of it is pulled hard against the clitoris – producing great sensations in that all-important little organ.

2. Woman on top position - The man lies down on his back. The sits down on his penis. Then, in her own time, she gradually lowers herself onto it. Giving her the freedom to adjust according to full clitorial stimulation.

3. Double Stimulation - It requires prior agreement by both partners. A manual clitorial stimulation by the male or female is done along with penial penetration of the vagina.
The male partner is normally standing while woman is lying down to perform this in unison.

4. The spoons position
A woman sidewise while the man makes a vagina entry from the rear side. Like a spoon next to a spoon.

There's no right or wrong way to have sex with a partner but it should be an exercise that helps in complete physical, emotional and psychological sexual satisfaction of both partners.

2. Relaxed Mind

Many times a woman's mind is occupied with excessive thoughts at the time of initiating sexual act. This confuses the subconscious mind and it leads to complete closure and withdrawal from the sexual act.

Sexual satisfaction is a birth right of every individual. Happiness can never be achieved without the same. It's better to consult a good professional and get the right information than leading a life of sadness and despair.

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6 foods that help you boost your sex life

They say sex is a great stressbuster. They are right because love-making has been found to relive the pressure of the burdens of life, ease stress, soothe chronic aches and pains, spur creativity and rev up the energy levels.
Experts say that anything that makes you feel good, alive and physically excited will make you feel as if you've shed years. And all these things are associated with sex.
You are probably aware of the basics of terrific sex, but let us suggest you a few aphrodisiacs which can add zing to your sex life.
1. Figs have been found to be brimming with minerals like magnesium, manganese and zinc and also Vitamin E. All of them can do wonders to spice up your sex life.

2. The flashy-red watermelons contain a substance called citrulline, which sends the body the signals to release arginine, which relaxes blood vessels. This produces an effect similar to Viagra. And need we give you details about what Viagra does?

3. You've tried whiskly, you've tried wine but didn't feel the buzz. Pick a bottle of champagne and feel the difference. It enters the bloodstream faster than the wine does, so make sure you don't drink too much of it. Many champagnes have been found to have the same amount of antioxidants as red wine.

4. The Red Hot Chilli Peppers can bring out the hotness in you. They help recreate the symptoms of arousal: flushed cheeks, a quiver on your tongue, and more kissable lips. They also up the heat in the body.

5. Cheese releases 10 times more endorphins than the great ol' aphrodisiac - Chocolate. It will help you set the right mood.
6. Chocolate has been your trusted friend when it comes to having a great sex. You just need to maintain the bond. Its aphrodisiac property has been ascribed to two chemicals. One, tryptophan, which is the building block of serotonin, a brain chemical involved in sexual arousal. And two, phenyethylamine, a stimulant.
So the kind of food we gorge upon can do wonders with our sex life. Right food can make you positively sexual

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Homosexuality - the dark battle for an identity and approval !!!

HOMOSEXUALITY - A social reality.
“ My parents want to get me married to a girl of their choice. The problem is that I have homosexual preferences. What should I do?” –  25yr, Businessman.

“I am ashamed doctor. My son has disgraced my family. 5 months ago we got him married.  For so long he never touched his wife. Yesterday we found out he is gay!!!  My son’s gay!!!! I am shattered!!! My name in the society is all gone now!!!” – 58yrs govt. Employee

“I got married 3yrs ago, but have never been happy with my husband. I am into a relationship with a building friend of mine. She and me are like soul-mates, now my husband wants to move away, I am so fearful of losing her” – 25yrs, Housewife

“Hello doctor, I have a dark secret which I haven’t shared with anyone. I am gay. I don’t know how I got this disease. Please help me” –  24yrs, Executive in MNC.

These are real life examples of individuals I have met in my clinic over the last few years.. Few out of the hundreds people who have consulted me secretly because they emotionally fail to battle the social stigma attached with their sexual orientation.

The Indian society is one that is evolving.
Thou over the years we have managed to battle many of our “illogical” orthodox belief systems, same-sex relationships are probably the biggest barrier that “neo” thinkers and social reformist face.

Science has already proved homosexuality to be a personal choice that doesn’t account for any mental illness.
BUT IS THIS ENTIRELY TRUE????
ARE WE READY TO ACCEPT SCIENCE... or ARE IS THE AGE OLD MYTH A REALITY??


What is homosexuality?Medically - Homosexuality is a emotional and behavioural pattern defined by sexual, romantic or affectional  attraction between members of the same sex/gender.

Popular view - Its one of the greatest sins one can create.


Is homosexuality more common in men?Medically - Homosexuality is equally present in men and women.

Popular view - people only concentrate on male homosexuality, forgetting about female behavior.


Is it a disease or mental disorder?Medically - No It’s nor a disease nor a disorder in case of pure homosexuals.
But in many it can be a psychological adaptation due to the environment.
Thousands of psychological studies,  CT-scan, MRI-scans have proven that homosexuality is not a disease or disorder.

Popular view- Yes


How does one become homosexual?Homosexuality is a personal choice, but how has the choice come into effect makes difference in entire profile of an individual.

1. Genetics – A pure homosexual individual, is one who is born with genetic code which directs the brain to follow homosexual relationships.

2. Childhood experience – sexual abuse or multiple episodes of same sex sexual interactions in childhood can condition the mind to favour same sex relationships.

3. Adolescence Curiosity – curiosity might lead an individual to read or watch materials related to homosexuality. This might leave an impact on the mind, creating a source of never ending thoughts related to the same. Constantly thinking about the same might ignite desire to experiment.

4.Living or Working Environment – an environment which is devoid of contact with the opposite sex makes expression of normal sexual desires difficult.
Single sex dominated environments like boys/girls Hostels, closed enclosures, working places (ships, oil rigs, military, construction), etc.

Even Peer group pressure  for same sex relationship is observed.

5.Failed relationships – A major failed relationship might imprint hatred against the opposite sex. Same sex relationships are seen as more comforting and understanding.
 
6. Poor Heterosexual sexual experience – Sexual intercourse is closely linked to the ego of an individual. Fear to perform, a poor or painful sexual intercourse with the opposite sex, might create extreme fear within an individual. This fear might promote an individual to go for same sex relationships.


We need the society to understand that Homosexuality is a sexual preference.
That doesn’t make a person different from any other individual.  He/She has the same emotions and physical desires as any other person.


Dr.Hemant Mittal - (MBBS,PGDPM, MBPS, MD(mindmantra))
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5 ways to boost your Sex Life after pregnancy!

Pregnancy is one of the most challenging times in the life of any couple. While in many cases it helps to increase the emotional bond in many others it also can create a lot of tension and negativity. Thou there are many causes for pregnancy leading to negativity and tension, one of the major reasons for such is the lack of healthy sex. 

It has to be understood that Sex is one of the essential instincts. It’s not just an orgasm providing exercise but in a committed relationship it’s the most powerful physical expression of trust, care and love between the two individuals. 

And as the practical phrase says, “actions speak more than words”, unsatisfactory sexual life leads to decreased meaning of words, lack of trust, decreased love and increased negativity between the partners.

Pregnancy is one such time when many partners chose to abstain from regular sexual activity, leading to sexual dissatisfaction and increased stress.

Over the last few years I have seen that modern Indian couples don’t mind having an open discussion on this issue. They recognize how sexual tension is transforming into relationship stress, and they don’t mind consulting professionals to help them out with the same. 

I have had hundreds of couples who have consulted me regarding this issue. Hereby I give you 5 techniques that both partners need to en-act to re-ignite the fire and fun in your sexual life after pregnancy-

1.      Let cupid strike again.
Commonest Mistake that new Parents make is to focus all their energies into parenthood.

While most excel in learning the nuances of parenthood, many drift apart as soul-mates. Remember that Child is not going anywhere, but the love between you two might.
1^st rule – Since you have been focusing on pregnancy and childbirth it’s time to remind yourself about love on both emotional and physical plane.

a.       It’s essential to continuously gift each other with a special thank you note,  surprise gift, sms or phone call mentioning how he/she is a great partner, great lover and source of love in your life.

b.      Well placed touching, kisses and hugs to physically show what you emotionally mean.

2.      If the Flame is ON, don’t think, do it

Second mistake that new parents do is to “voluntarily” keep Sex on the back burner. The moment they start getting comfortable with each other, start getting aroused and feel like getting down to business, the thought of the child strikes and puts a break to all activity.
Imagine If your favourite food was in front of you, and as you approach to eat it, even before you could touch it someone just threw it away. Your subconscious mind would burst into negativity with feelings like anger, sadness, irritation, etc. The same just magnified many thousand times happens when you get aroused for sex and suddenly withdraw.

2^nd rule – If you are aroused, do it.

The demands of the child might not permit you a full hour or hour and half session but that doesn’t stop you from enjoying a quick 5min nooky.  Keeping this in mind, time management as in when the baby is taking a nap, early morning before he/she wakes up, or in the during his afternoon nap have to be devised.

3.      The bed is no longer “yours”

The great majority of couples are conditioned to have sex on the bed. With the arrival of the baby, the mind quickly adjusts to perceive the bed as a place to rest, sleep or take care of the baby. The image of the bed being “your private place” or “your sanctuary for love” is slowly erased from conscious self.

3^rd rule- Become an explorer. Leave the bed and consider other places for love making. Store room, guest room, sofa, couch, table-top, the possibilities are infinite if you look for them.

4.      Get out of your Aunty/Uncle Mode.

It’s a universal truth that “The mind loves what appeals to the eyes”. This truth is relevant from the moment of birth to moment of death.
Many couples think that parenthood is the last step in personal development. They stop caring about their physical self. Using the child as an excuse the explore the earlier forbidden territories of gorging into food and drink, decreased physical activity and decreased personal grooming. Slowly the physical attraction between partners starts drifting away.

4^th rule – Parenthood is not an excuse to become ugly. Take small steps and keep yourself physically fit and groom yourself properly. Don’t use the child as an excuse to stop you from getting new clothes, new hair cut, or remain fashionable.

Keeping your physical appeal helps improve your love and sex life post pregnancy.

 

 5.      Talk.
One of the main reasons for lack of sex drive post pregnancy is the lack of communication between partners. While one might be exhausted from taking care of the baby, the other might be exhausted from thinking about the baby’s future.  The most soothing balm for this exhaustion is talking.

5^th Rule – Talk. Every day for 30min make sure that you communicate with each other.  Don’t fight or have arguments, but communicate. Talk on topics of common interest, talk on each other’s feelings/emotions/fears/apprehensions about the future. Listen to each other. Even if you have hundred of opinions about each thing he/she says, develop habit of listening.

There is nothing more power than effective communication to re-ignite the desire to be in each other’s arms and make love like never before.

“BE HAPPY”

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Emotional, Behavioral, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health Consultant at Mind Mantra.

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Sexual Health - Commonly Asked Questions (part 1)

1. I am a 25yrs old Male. I have noticed white deposit under my penis skin. Is it something to be worried about? Sometimes it causes itching. Please suggest what I should do.
   
   Those white deposits are called smegma. It’s a normal secretion by the body.
   It’s important that you clean it daily with soap and water.
   If not washed properly it can become a site for growth of bacteria or function.
   Itching is a sign of infection at that site.
   Consult a dermatologist or sexologist immediately.
   The doctor needs to take a look at it, then diagnose and treat the type of infection involved.
   
   
2. I am 22yrs old male. I have noticed that the size of my testicles are smaller when compared to those men in “blue-films” (porn movies). Is there any trouble for my sex life?
   
   Testicle size is determined genetically. The function of the testicles is to produce sperms. And if are producing a normal ejaculate than nothing to be worried about.
   
   
3. I am a 25yr old girl from a very good family. I have kissed my boyfriend a few days back. After that this time I started experienced immense pain during my periods. I fear telling my parents, am I pregnant?
   No you are not pregnant. The pain might be due to many reasons, including stress. You can show it to your local gynaecologist.
   
   
   
4. I am a 24yr old girl. I am in the habit of masturbation. A few days ago I experienced bleeding after masturbation. Does this mean that my hymen is broken?  I fear my husband will never accept me as my virginity is now lost. I am very scared to have lost my hymen without doing anything wrong.Please help
   When in your heart you know that you haven’t done anything wrong than don’t be afraid.
   Rupture of the hymen is not the criteria for virginity. It’s social myth.
   Majority of girls in today’s age experience rupture of hymen much before marriage due to over stretching during  exercises like aerobics or gym, riding a bicycle, running or dancing.
   Any man who is fixated upon such a social myth has the personality of destroying his personal happiness on the influence of anybody.
   
   
5. I was asked to buy condoms during ragging at college. Thou I am a very confident person, I felt a lot of shame and couldn’t do it. Now I want to have sex with my girl friend. She doesn’t want to take OC pills. I still have that fear in my mind, is there any alternative to condoms.
   Remove the fear of buying condoms from your mind. Instead of thinking that you are doing something wrong, remember you are doing something right by buying protection. Those who might judge you are wrong  as they don’t understand what a practical step you are taking in life.
   
   She is right in avoiding OC pills as long as possible. As they will affect her health.
   
   
6. I  am a very young and beautiful woman. I have been married for the past few months. My husband does not initiate sex. Please help me as I feel I am not complete women for him.
   It’s very important to assess the reasons for the lack of interest in sex. Many men have a fear of not being able to satisfy their partner and try best to avoid sex. They need both physical and emotional encouragement to overcome that fear.
   If problem is beyond your control, you both can consult a psychiatrist or a sexologist.
   
   
7. My penis is bent downwards, is there something to worry. Do I need to get some treatment?
   In many cases  a slight bent in the penis is present. If you feel that you have beyond normal bent, then show to your local sexologist or surgeon to rule out any development deformity.
   
    
8. I am 26yr old male. Sex is on my mind almost all the time. I watch porn to feel satisfied, but still the thought doesn’t go away. It gets very embarrassing cause I get an erection, when I start to have sexual thoughts of my colleagues, boss or any women who I see for long time. Please help me.
   Your mind seems to be obsessed with sexual thoughts. It might be sign of high sexual anxiety or your mind developing a sort of Obsessive compulsive problem. Consult a psychiatrist or sexologist immediately before this destroys your professional, personal and social life.
   
   
9. I am 25yr old female. Have been married since 2yrs. My husband is addicted to porn. I have caught him many times watching the same. His performance in bed is also not satisfactory. I am feeling frustrated. Please help me, I fear I will drift apart from my husband and fall into unholy behaviour.
   Porn addiction is a tricky situation. Fantasy world satisfaction can completely overtake real world satisfaction, destroying his sexual life.
   IF you are open minded about it, a good technique that you can use, both of you can watch porn together. Start by enjoying masturbation and slowly move towards intercourse. You can spice it up by wearing dresses shown in the adult movies, so that his attraction towards you increases.
   
   
10. I am 32yrs old. I have observed that my penis becomes soft within few seconds of penetration. This has started a few months ago and since them I am fearful of having sex with my wife. I try to avoid it whenever she comes near to me. Please help me.
    You need to consult a sexologist or psychiatrist to find out if you are having Erectile dysfunction. It’s a common condition that affects most men especially during periods of high stress.
    In those men who are sensitive by nature or those who are extremely concerned about their sexual performance even a single episode of erectile dysfunction can create a negative memory that keeps circulating in their mind. Creating fear and preventing further performance.
    
    
11. I am 24yr old male, I have noticed my right testicles is higher than the left one, is it ok? Normally both testicles don’t lie at the same level. One is higher than the other.  In most cases the right one is higher, but in some it’s the left one. There is nothing to worry about that.
    
    
    
    Thanks for reading
    
    
    Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,PGDPM, MBPS, MD(mindmantra))
    Motivational Speaker - Mind Trainer –
    Emotional, Behavioral, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health Consultant at Mind Mantra.
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