Pornography Addiction

15th July 2010, Mumbai, The Times of India reports that A 35yr old, middle class, educated lady was assualted and burnt alive by her husband, because she refused to comply by his needs of “un-natural” sexual intercourse. The husband, an educated working man, is a pornography addict. Since marriage he he would force her to watch the audio-visual adult material with him. Post that would constantly ask for sex in the various positions and attires shown in the movies. Her constant refusal fueled up his anger and repeated episodes of physical abuse are now being reported.



Pornography Addiction is a very common thought disorder that inflicts millions of males and females across the socio-economic spectrum.

The taboo to talk about sex and sexual disorders fuels its growth, and in certain many cases leads to emotional, physical and sexual abuse.


What is Pornography addiction?
Its a neuro-psychiatric condition, in which the brain gets conditioned to get pleasure by watching audio-visual adult material.
With time and constant exposure, a person seeks more and more of it to get the same pleasure.


Why is it dangerous?
From a neuro-psychiatric basis, Pornography has the same effect on brain as addiction causing drugs like cocaine, alcohol and tobaco.

It triggers the pleasure center of the brain, with instant gratification. This leads to erroneous conditioning of the brain to get sexual pleasures through exposure to such audio-visual material.


Why is it harmful for an individual?

Pornography addiction like any other is extremely harmful for the emotional and psychological self of an individual.
1. It induces an obsessive compulsive thought disorder, whereby sexual gratification is only achieved by watching the sexually explicit material.

2. Once a person develops such a dependency on it for sexual pleasure, refusing to indulge into it, causes the brain to release huge amounts of neurochemicals that cause anxiety and even depression

3. The person also spends a lot of time and money searching for new content.

4. Slowly some people start mixing alcohol with pornography, which ignites a dangerous cocktail of violent sexual emotions and can trigger assualtive and abusive behavioral patterns.

5. Most pornographic material is extremely violent in nature. Showing a woman being suppressed to male needs. Horrendous and illegal acts like rape, child-sex, bondage and anal sex are glorified.
This creates an altered reality in mind of the consumer. Leading to curiosity for indulging in such acts.

6. Pornographic material is mostly staged acts done by professionals. Lack of knowledge of the same, prompt many individuals to seek un-natural medical ways to boost sexual performace upto 30-40min. This not only end ups damaging their sexual organs, but also affects their sexual needs.

7. Pornography can increase violence and aggression in males with low anger/irritation limit.

8. It also increases the reliance on fantasisng and masturbation as mode of sexual satisfaction. Which eventually can lead to masturbation addiction. This also increases the burden of emotional, physical and sexual stress on the unconcious mind.

Pornography addiction is present through out the social strata. And suprisingly more so towards the middle class specturm. The easy accessibility of such software on mobiles, laptops and DVD’s triggers and fuels this buisness.

Most pornography addicts require sexual therpay and neuro-psychiatric treatment to help them fight out this thought disorder. Counseling and new-age safe non-addictive, non-sedative medications are both used depending on the severity of the case.

IF you know someone who is suffering from this problem, get him treated before it becomes serious and his brain commands him to commits a horrendous act like the one reported above.



Regards,

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, PGDPM)
http://www.mindmantra.in/
email-eksoch@gmail.com

Masturbation Addiction -Real Life Cases

Masturbation is a behaviour pattern equally practised by both men and women to experience the ecstasy of sexual gratification. The pleasure experienced is a combined trigger of stimulation of the sexual receptors on the sexual organs and the pleasure pathways in the brain. A frequent stimulation of this pathway, leads the brain into an erroneous conditioning mode, whereby a person is compelled to indulge in such behaviour within a specific period of time.

The severity of this disordered thought and action sequence can only be measured when it leads to physical, behavioural, social, and sexual health problems.

This is a collection of 5 Real life cases from the more than 500 such cases I have counselled and treated during the last 4yrs.

(All the names have been changed. And all the persons involved have personally volunteered to put their case on a public forum, so that it becomes an example for others)

“Rahul, 18yr old, a 1st year engineering college student, started masturbating 3yrs ago. It all started with night-falls. His embarrassment for the same, became an unwanted monstrous stress which many a times broke his night sleep, just to wake him fearful of any wetness on his bed or pyjamas. He was never offered any advice by his parents. He tried talking to his father, but the great father-son talk was more of an irrational command for him to control his thoughts about girls and focus them on studies. He tried to follow his father advice, only to find increasing amounts of guilt and embarrassment whenever he would get an erection. He wouldn’t watch movies or t.v. with his parents, would avoid the mall with them, as the sight of any girl could trigger it. He talked on the topic with his best friend Vinod. Vinod, himself dealing with such a problem, had learnt the method of masturbation to avoid it. Rahul started liking masturbation. It was a pleasurable, stress reliving exercise that required only few minutes and good imagination. Slowly his habit increased from once a week to 3 times a day. He experienced a downfall in overall physical and sexual health. He tried to control himself, but has mostly failed. His father upon learning this problem, asked for my professional help in this matter. Today Rahul, he is successful in handling it positively”

“ Tanya, a 20yr old college student, came from a very orthodox family. Till 12th grade her family always kept studies as the only objective of her life. In 1st year of college she started exploring the world on her own. With lot of desires, but no one to guide her, she feared every step she took. She wanted to fall in love, have a pampering boy-friend, have lot of friends, go to parties, just like in the t.v. serials and the movies. The fear of being labelled as “that type of girl” or “bad character girl”, made her bottle up all those desires within the depth of her heart. She was introduced to masturbation using a vibrator by a friend of hers. She slowly got addicted to it. She would masturbate up to 3-4times a day. Some days she would bunk college, read mills & boons and then self-satisfy herself. Sometimes she would fantasise over movie stars, sometimes over the boy-friends of her friends and sometimes on handsome men she would see on the road. It was her own world, deep inside her mind. Over a few months this over indulgence became a problem, showing effects on her studies, fights with her friends, irritable behaviour and negative attitude towards life. She was forced to take help by a good friend of hers, who couldn’t see her going through this bad phase.”

“Anant, a 25yr old MNC executive. He started masturbating at the age of 15yrs. In college he got introduced to pornography. The mixture of pornography and masturbation was an orgasmic cocktail of pleasure which instantly got him addicted. He was compelled to indulge in it on a daily basis. He promised himself to quit the habit once he found a stable relationship. Even after his marriage got fixed, he couldn’t control himself and had to indulge in it. The tension about the future sexual life overtook his mind. The counselling from friends just provided little relief in controlling the need for it. His local doctor gave him some vitamins that helped him physically but didn’t help him control the habit. His stress level had crossed from mind to body, even his boss and colleges urged him to take help. He contacted me online and after a few sessions of counselling he is today happily focusing his sexual energy to enrich his marital life”

“Varuna, 32yr old working professional. She got married at the age of 27yrs. In her husband she found a perfect match for her emotional and financial needs. Unfortunately there was so much more to desire from his sexual stamina. With the fear of not harming the relationship, she faked orgasms and never told her husband about his decreased sexual capacity. In the loneliness of the bathroom, or deep into the night, she would self-satisfy her sexual needs. Eventually she got addicted to it. A point came, where she stopped having any physical relationships with him. This created a lot of friction in their married life. She consulted me to help her out. Slowly she was able to create a more harmonious sexual relationship with her husband. He also took the responsibility of increasing his sexual stamina”

“Amit, 45yr old gentlemen, father of 2 kids, worked as a senior level manager in a financial firm. He was secretly addicted to masturbation. In 18yrs of his life, he had un-accounted number of sexual interactions with his wife, but never enjoyed them. He always needed to masturbate to get that happiness feeling. He kept this secret, tightly cornered within the dark side of his mind. He broke his silence only after his adolescent children accidentally found adult magazines in his room and questioned his motives. His own family blamed him for sexual perversion, and sought my help for the same. Its only after a detailed interview that I realised he was actually having a masturbation addiction.”

Masturbation is a healthy habit, to be enjoyed and used for sexual healing of one’s own self. If its overdone, it can create physical, emotional and sexual road-blocks in healthy living.

Regards,

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,PGDPM, MBPS, MD(mindmantra))

Motivational Speaker - Mind Trainer –
Emotional, Behavioral, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health Consultant at Mind Mantra.
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