How to be a Perfect Girl-Friend/Boy-Friend

How to be a the Perfect Girl-Friend/Boy-Friend

Courtship is the period in any relationship, when two individuals create the base for a secure future. Its also a time, when many commit mistakes of trying to overtly control their partners, leading to unwanted tensions and laying the base for future separations.

Hereby 5 very important tips on how to walk on the road to PERFECT RELATIONSHIP:

1. His/Her friends are your friends: 

The first major mistake many individuals make is to try and alienate their partners from their friends. 

REMEMBER- friends have been the source of emotional, social and personal balance since his/her youngest age. By being possessive and asking your partner to go against them, you tend to create a "feel bad" sentiment that eventually may come back to hurt your relationship.

Solution - The ground for a progressive relationship is to promote friendship, and intermingle with his/her friends.  

2. Don't criticize the game:

Most guys love to watch or play a game of cricket, football, basketball, etc. Watching or Playing the game satisfies their male emotional and psychological self, helps in male friends bonding and helps use in production of male sexual hormone testosterone.

REMEMBER - By constantly criticizing the game, most ladies, push their men to secretly indulge in such pleasures. Hence forth leading the men to start lying or fighting for their space.

Solution- give them time to watch/play the game. If possible be part of the festivities or just indulge in something more constructive during that time.

 

3. Shopping is sacred:

Like the ladies who cannot understand male psychology behind being so passionate about "the game or the team", the men cannot understand female psychology behind "shopping".

Most guys would enter a shopping mall and complete their entire year's shopping within 25min. On the other side, the ladies could spend ages inside, without even buying a single thing. 

REMEMBER- Shopping is like sacred. Its like watching "the game". It stimulates the female emotional, hormonal, psychological and physical self. 

Solution - Be patient. Give your partner enough time to shop. If possible be part of it. Try and understand the important of shoes, bags, wallets, jackets, perfumes, original and fake jewelry. It could turn out to be a very positive plus point for your relationship.

4. Make sure he/she has something of yours:

The mind is a beautiful organ. It works in the most organised and the most dis-organised of fashions. Once its overloaded with emotions, it stops thinking practically and only concentrates on the topic at hand. So overload his/her brain with your emotions.

REMEMBER - I will let a small secret of human brain and human psychiatry. "The eyes are the gateway for triggering memories".

Solution - Leave something personal of your with him/her. Something that they can see, touch or feel daily. It shouldn't be a photo-graph, but something more personal.

A piece of jewelry, a piece of clothing, a piece of underwear, a watch, a cellphone, etc. Something That you have used and now he/she has in his/her possession. It should be something that triggers positive memories. This way it will always help to increase love.

5. The power of Actions: 

When was the last time when you suddenly praised, hugged, kissed or SMSed him/her. 

REMEMBER- Actions speak more than words. A 1000 "i love you" cannot compare to a surprise hug, kiss or drive.

Thanks for reading,

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,PGDPM, MBPS, MD(mindmantra))
Motivational Speaker - Mind Trainer –
Emotional, Behavioral, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health Consultant at Mind Mantra.
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