Sexual Health - Commonly Asked Questions (part 1)

1. I am a 25yrs old Male. I have noticed white deposit under my penis skin. Is it something to be worried about? Sometimes it causes itching. Please suggest what I should do.
   
   Those white deposits are called smegma. It’s a normal secretion by the body.
   It’s important that you clean it daily with soap and water.
   If not washed properly it can become a site for growth of bacteria or function.
   Itching is a sign of infection at that site.
   Consult a dermatologist or sexologist immediately.
   The doctor needs to take a look at it, then diagnose and treat the type of infection involved.
   
   
2. I am 22yrs old male. I have noticed that the size of my testicles are smaller when compared to those men in “blue-films” (porn movies). Is there any trouble for my sex life?
   
   Testicle size is determined genetically. The function of the testicles is to produce sperms. And if are producing a normal ejaculate than nothing to be worried about.
   
   
3. I am a 25yr old girl from a very good family. I have kissed my boyfriend a few days back. After that this time I started experienced immense pain during my periods. I fear telling my parents, am I pregnant?
   No you are not pregnant. The pain might be due to many reasons, including stress. You can show it to your local gynaecologist.
   
   
   
4. I am a 24yr old girl. I am in the habit of masturbation. A few days ago I experienced bleeding after masturbation. Does this mean that my hymen is broken?  I fear my husband will never accept me as my virginity is now lost. I am very scared to have lost my hymen without doing anything wrong.Please help
   When in your heart you know that you haven’t done anything wrong than don’t be afraid.
   Rupture of the hymen is not the criteria for virginity. It’s social myth.
   Majority of girls in today’s age experience rupture of hymen much before marriage due to over stretching during  exercises like aerobics or gym, riding a bicycle, running or dancing.
   Any man who is fixated upon such a social myth has the personality of destroying his personal happiness on the influence of anybody.
   
   
5. I was asked to buy condoms during ragging at college. Thou I am a very confident person, I felt a lot of shame and couldn’t do it. Now I want to have sex with my girl friend. She doesn’t want to take OC pills. I still have that fear in my mind, is there any alternative to condoms.
   Remove the fear of buying condoms from your mind. Instead of thinking that you are doing something wrong, remember you are doing something right by buying protection. Those who might judge you are wrong  as they don’t understand what a practical step you are taking in life.
   
   She is right in avoiding OC pills as long as possible. As they will affect her health.
   
   
6. I  am a very young and beautiful woman. I have been married for the past few months. My husband does not initiate sex. Please help me as I feel I am not complete women for him.
   It’s very important to assess the reasons for the lack of interest in sex. Many men have a fear of not being able to satisfy their partner and try best to avoid sex. They need both physical and emotional encouragement to overcome that fear.
   If problem is beyond your control, you both can consult a psychiatrist or a sexologist.
   
   
7. My penis is bent downwards, is there something to worry. Do I need to get some treatment?
   In many cases  a slight bent in the penis is present. If you feel that you have beyond normal bent, then show to your local sexologist or surgeon to rule out any development deformity.
   
    
8. I am 26yr old male. Sex is on my mind almost all the time. I watch porn to feel satisfied, but still the thought doesn’t go away. It gets very embarrassing cause I get an erection, when I start to have sexual thoughts of my colleagues, boss or any women who I see for long time. Please help me.
   Your mind seems to be obsessed with sexual thoughts. It might be sign of high sexual anxiety or your mind developing a sort of Obsessive compulsive problem. Consult a psychiatrist or sexologist immediately before this destroys your professional, personal and social life.
   
   
9. I am 25yr old female. Have been married since 2yrs. My husband is addicted to porn. I have caught him many times watching the same. His performance in bed is also not satisfactory. I am feeling frustrated. Please help me, I fear I will drift apart from my husband and fall into unholy behaviour.
   Porn addiction is a tricky situation. Fantasy world satisfaction can completely overtake real world satisfaction, destroying his sexual life.
   IF you are open minded about it, a good technique that you can use, both of you can watch porn together. Start by enjoying masturbation and slowly move towards intercourse. You can spice it up by wearing dresses shown in the adult movies, so that his attraction towards you increases.
   
   
10. I am 32yrs old. I have observed that my penis becomes soft within few seconds of penetration. This has started a few months ago and since them I am fearful of having sex with my wife. I try to avoid it whenever she comes near to me. Please help me.
    You need to consult a sexologist or psychiatrist to find out if you are having Erectile dysfunction. It’s a common condition that affects most men especially during periods of high stress.
    In those men who are sensitive by nature or those who are extremely concerned about their sexual performance even a single episode of erectile dysfunction can create a negative memory that keeps circulating in their mind. Creating fear and preventing further performance.
    
    
11. I am 24yr old male, I have noticed my right testicles is higher than the left one, is it ok? Normally both testicles don’t lie at the same level. One is higher than the other.  In most cases the right one is higher, but in some it’s the left one. There is nothing to worry about that.
    
    
    
    Thanks for reading
    
    
    Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,PGDPM, MBPS, MD(mindmantra))
    Motivational Speaker - Mind Trainer –
    Emotional, Behavioral, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health Consultant at Mind Mantra.
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