Women – 20 Medical and Psychiatric facts about Sex.

“A powerful individual is one who is comfortable with his body”

Sex  is probably the most tabooed subject in our society. 90% of men and women are extremely shy to talk about it. As a sexual health counsellor at Mind Mantra Wellness Clinic, I have met thousands individuals (both men and women) who are going through extreme unhappiness because they haven’t been able to accept, express and enjoy their sexual desires.

 The following are essential medical facts that every man and woman in search of productive and stimulating sexual life, should be aware regarding the female sexual health:

1.     Women are more open to discuss about sex with their friends, than men. – Unfortunately as most of their friends also harbour half knowledge about it, this tends to propagate myths.

2.     A Higher number of women believe that sex is unholy. – If it was unholy, why would god let your body produce sex hormones which trigger desire and want.

3.     A woman takes between 10-12min to reach an orgasm – While a man take 3-5min. (what they show in porn movies is staged!!!)

4.     40% women accept to have or regularly masturbate. – The rest 60% suppress their desires. – It’s important to note that Continuous suppression of sexual desires, re-programs the body to think that sexual hormones are not required, henceforth decreasing the thoughts and want for sex in life.

5.     When women have an orgasm, their body secrete enormous amounts of oxytocin, also called “the bonding hormone”. This hormone is responsible for causing their brain to feel extremely attached to their partner. Hence sex carries an emotional significance to it.  Men don’t have the same, so sex is more of an exercise for them.

6.     84% women report to have sex simple to “keep the peace” or “Keep the husband happy” at home.

7.     More than 60% Indian woman have never experienced a complete pleasurable orgasm in their life.- Either they have never been thought the right way of having sex or their husbands are just focused onto intercourse. Remember sex is an exercise that’s much more than simple intercourse.

8.     Only 30% women reach orgasm during intercourse, compared to 75% men.

9.     60% women have faked an orgasm at some point of time in their lives.

10.   9 out of 10 sexually active women use a contraceptive method without consulting a professional. They mostly rely on friends and some elder family member to give them the information. – such information is 80% right, 20% wrong.

11.  For a woman to have an orgasm during sex, her amygdala of center for excessive thought generation must be turned off. Hence a woman who is extremely anxious, fearful, or spends too much time thinking might never reach an orgasm. – This is the major reason why most woman never achieve an orgasm and long for productive, fruitful and efficient sexual life.

12.  Upto 10% women have the need to of same-sex or “homosexual” attraction. This is much lower compared to upto 15-20% of males who feel the need for same.

13.  Upto 19% of women think about sex on a daily basis. – this category is dominated by either women with depression due to lack of complete sexual satisfaction by husband, woman with extremely high sexual desires due to medical problems like hypomania,  erotomania or nymphomania and woman with extremely high need to be centre of attraction.

14.  70% women would rather eat chocolate than have sex. – This reflects the poor quality of sexual life they are subjected to.

15.  In India Among contraceptives – The Pill is the most popular, followed by male condom, female condom and tubal sterilization.

16.  After 2^nd year of marriage, most women report to have sex only a handful number of times. – Among married woman, upto 10% have never had sex in the past year. About 30% have had it less than 15 times in the year.

17.  Most women agree that their most satisfying sexual experiences happen when they feel connected to someone, rather than solely based on physical satisfaction.

18.  Working women within the higher income bracket are more prone to seek and be involved with multiple sexual partners – as their brain utilises sex as stress reliever for them.

19.  Women with high “inferiority complex” and extremely high dependency needs are most liable to be subjected to perversions. Most common perversions include forced sexual encounters with family members and being accomplice of their husbands unnatural sexual practices.

20.  The break of trust by a boyfriend or husband can trigger a woman to utilize sex as an instrument for personal, physical and professional self-satisfaction.

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Learn how to control Men.

1.) Just say hi.
An international survey showed that men love it when a woman takes control and makes the first move.
"Just go over and say hi,"
You can go wrong with this tactic.

2.) Don't show-off your knowledge, create a challenge instead.
Ego kills the charm.
The more knowledge or discussions you get into, the less affection you develop.
Real Men love a challenge. So learn the art of gently poking fun and laughing... Teasing is a great challenge which makes men run after a girl.

3.) Learn to Listen.
The most important step after you have crossed the initial "hello" stage is to create a space in the guys heart. This can only be done if you listen to him.
I know you are eager to talk and share so many things with him, but before you reach that stage, make sure the guy is under your spell.
"you give something to get back a lot"
learn to listen.


4.) Ask guys questions
Real Men are Raw... While a new age breed spends hours in front of the mirror, those who are determined to achieve success in life, are out there doing something.
Ask a guy about his workout, his friends, his cars, his bikes and his likes and dislikes.
Don't jump to give an opinion about everything...
I once counseled a very successful Senior Manager in a Fortune 500 company, he was a great success in his profession but a bigger failure in relationships... He used to say "I know I'm not the best-looking guy, But the only thing that look for in a girl is to understand that all this money, cars, gadgets are my way of expressing love for her."

5.) Touch therapy.
Some men are desperately physical.. They just want to be touched and hugged all the time...
The greater lot is not. They like to keep it light and specific in public.
Learn his "comfort points".. were a light touch will send signals all over his body.
Learn the importance of  "pressure" in a hug.
become his touch therapist.



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Sexual changes in both Men and Women due to Diabetes

Age and sex are two friends who constantly need to work upon their relationship. It's been proven that if taken in the positive way, sex can actually become a very relaxing and liberating experience with age.

One of the major reasons for Sexual Problems as one ages is the development of Diabetes. A devastating disorder. One of its more debilitating effects is the severe damage it causes upon urological and sexual blood and nerves.
While the sexual dysfunctions are common in both men and women.

Common sexual changes experienced by Men with diabetes
a. ED or Erectile Dysfunction - the inability to have a firm and satisfying erection. Estimated to be present in 55-75% patients, its known as the biggest havoc of happiness, manhood and successful relationships in middle aged men.

b. Retrograde Ejaculation- Retrograde ejaculation is a condition in which part or all of a man’s semen goes into the urinary bladder instead of coming out through the tip of the penis during ejaculation. It occurs due to weakening of the sexual muscles.
It's easily identifiable when the patient notices a decreased quantity of semen being discharged during ejaculation or presence of semen in the urine.

c. Premature Ejaculation - It's the inability to sustain any form of erection (firm or flaccid) for a long time. The partner normally complains or a man can feel how his ejaculation time has decreased. Creating dissatisfaction among the sexual relationship.


Common Sexual changes experience by women with diabetes
Many women never come out in the open to discuss their sexual problems. Also many tend to keep following their partners wish. This doesn't discount the wide presence of sexual changes experienced in women suffering from diabetes. These include:

a. Dyspareunia  or Painful Sexual intercourse - Increased blood sugar is known to decrease uro-genital functioning. A lack of vaginal lubrication, vaginal dryness, vaginal infections (fungal, UTI, bacterial) are some of the commonest signs that lead to a painful sexual intercourse.

b. Decreased or no desire for sexual activity - Diabetes can induce both a psychological and physical depression, whereby the lady has a decreased desire for sexual activity. As this increases, it creates a negative image in her mind, whereby sexual activity is not even thought about.

c. Decreased or absence of sexual arousal-  Physical damage by Diabetes to genital nerves and blood supply chain can cause lack of pleasure sensations in the genital area. This increases or in many cases completely stops the sexual arousal mechanism of the mind.
"Turning on the heat" becomes extremely difficult in between the sheets.

d. Decreased or absence of Orgasm - The prime aim of any sexual activity is to attain orgasm. If the aim is not fulfilled the activity becomes worthless.
As already discussed Diabetes, increases the blood sugar levels, which eventually destroy the genital nervous system, leading to complete absence or extremely faint feeling of orgasm.


TREATMENT
1. Control of Blood Sugar Levels.
2. Sexual Consultancy that has to focus upon the following:
a. Understanding the love - a communication bridge has to be opened and developed between the partners. Whereby they are able to express their physical needs.
Even though a temporary inability to satisfy the need, alternate methods have to be openly discussed for both partners sexual satisfaction.

b. Careful Pharmacy - one of the easiest routes taken by majority of people is ask the nearest chemist what medications to take. The Chemist uses his general knowledge to prescribe something. The instant pleasure can lead to excessive future damage.
Consult a professional sexologist, endocrinologist or urologist to get a complete checkup of your problem.
Poping medications is not the solution to everything.

c. Exercises and diet - a specific aphrodisiac diet and similar exercises can be given to the couple. To increase the love and bonding, some exercises include stimulation by partner, which helps to increase intimacy and love.

d. Medical treatment- any infection has to be treated to prevent unwanted pain during the sexual process


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Durex Sex Survey - Interesting insight into the world of Sex

Durex the international brand in sexual health products conducted a worldwide survey. And here are the results.

1. What’s your number?
According to a Durex survey, men across the globe have had an average of 13 sexual partners throughout their lifetime, while women have had seven. 

Guys and girls often shy away from honesty when it comes to discussing their number; too low and they fear embarrassment, too high and they face being judged.
According to the survey just 66 per cent of people are content with their ‘number’, while 22 per cent wish they’d slept with less people and 12 per cent would have liked to have slept with more.

2. Pop your cherry
The average male loses his virginity at age 16.9, while apparently females hold off, on average, until the ripe age of 17.4. 

Popping your cherry, deflowering, or whatever you want to call it, having sex for the first time is a significant part of anyone’s life and isn’t something that shouldn't be rushed into without proper knowledge.

3. Happy ending

Expectations of sex are often unrealistic due to farfetched portrayals of the act on the big screen, adult movies and TV. The truth is through research suggests that only 29 per cent of women reach ‘the big O’ or get an orgasm every time they have sex. This is far different when compared to a 75 per cent of men.
Why is it so?
This may be because, according to Durex, due to the couples lack of knowledge about sex, 75 per cent of all women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone,  and 10 to 15 per cent have untreated psychological problems due to which they never climax under any circumstances.

4. In the mood for love
The study showed that for 56 per cent of women, men’s facial hair is a strong trigger for sexual arousal. Apparently, a man with three days’ worth of stubble is more sexually attractive than a clean shaven man.  

In case of men its a long, steamy kiss that gets 35.4 per cent of men aroused and in the mood for love.

5. Weekly quota
Busy lifestyles, manic workload, hectic social life; who has time for sex every day? On a more realistic note,  Durex survey showed that 67 per cent of adults have sex once a week and only eight per cent have it once a day or more. 

The key is whatever works best for you –being honest with your lover will keep you both in check of each other’s sex schedules.

6.Fake it to make it
It’s not uncommon for guys or gals to fake an orgasm, either to prevent themselves or their partner from embarrassment or a feeling of inadequacy under the sheets.
Upto 30 per cent of women would fake it so as not to upset their partner. While 26 per cent said they would be frank if they couldn’t climax. Eight per cent of women even admitted to making it a regular habit!
Fakers are at higher risk of getting into depression, looking for extra-marital affairs or having a feeling of incompleteness. 

7. Sex secrets
Being honest and open about your sexual needs and desires will help improve your overall sexual satisfaction by teaching your partner how to press all the right buttons and keep you blissful in the bedroom. However, only 58 per cent of people are comfortable with telling their lover exactly what they want in bed, which is probably why only 38 per cent are fully satisfied with their sex lives.
This is one of the main reasons for both men and women looking for sexual satisfaction outside their relationship. It cannot be denied that a health sexual life is equally important as a healthy emotional life.

8. Masturbation or Do it Yourself
According to the Durex survey, self-pleasure is widely practiced, with 83 per cent of people across the globe stating they have self-pleasured at some point in their lives.
43 per cent of men and 22 per cent of women repeat the act more than once a week, making it a really common sexual activity. 

9. How long and how often?
On average, sex sessions last between three and 13 minutes. 50.4 per cent of men would want it to last for 30 minutes while 25.5 per cent would want sex for 15 minutes.
Incorporating sex into your life does have its benefits, including stress relief and increased energy, but there is no right or wrong quota you need to hit – we’re not all bunny rabbits!

10. Better with age
65 per cent of over 50s are sexually active, with 46 per cent claiming to have sex once a week. 85 per cent feel that sex at a more mature age is less pressurised than when they were teens or young adults, suggesting that sex can get better with age (like many things in life).

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Sex and Sun Signs - a Micro-guide on how to satisfy your partner based on Sun Signs

Sex and Sun Signs
Sex is really important to keep your relationship sailing smooth forever. It is not just about physical pleasure but by giving in, you are expressing 'trust' that you have in your mate. It reflects affection, care, love and a feeling that you are wanted. If your sex life has gone for a toss, you have to work on it before your relationship is hit hard. In fact, sex has the power to put an end to conflicts in your relationship. So, discover your partners' passion points through their sun sign and keep the magic in your relationship alive.

Aries:
When your lover is Aries, sex is best if it's spontaneous and unrestricted. Their heads are erogenous zones-they love it when you mess up their hair and grab their face when they are making love. They are especially aroused by their partner's sexual organs.

Taurus:
When your lover is Taurus, the sexual nature involves all of the senses. Touch and smell are supremely important to these lovers. These lovers don't have a reputation for spontaneity or variety, but they are good at what they do nonetheless.

Gemini:
When your lover is Gemini, use words in bed with them. Talk turns them on, and they love to kiss! Oral pleasures are extra special for these lovers. They love role-playing, as long as it is varied.

Cancer:
When your lover is Cancer, you'll get one of the most sensitive and sweet lovers. They are turned on by slave scenarios, and they may like it when you're a little mean and aggressive in bed, as long as they know you love them.

Leo:
When your lover is Leo, the fantasies often revolve around devotion and attention. These people are most turned on when their partner thinks they are gods or goddesses. They can sometimes come on too strong, and get impatient when their needs are not met soon enough.

Virgo:
When your lover is Virgo, there is generally a healthy attitude towards sex. Simple and sweet is the way they like their bed partners. They can be a little insecure about their own bodies, and they make up for it by paying close attention to their methods of turning you on.

Libra:
When your lover is Libra, extra care is taken to please the partner. They love working on getting things right, and are especially turned on by role-playing sex games. They are givers in bed, but they fully expect you to give equally in return.

Scorpio:
When your lover is Scorpio, the sexual nature can be quite complex. These lovers are willing to do almost anything, and they enjoy full-body pleasures. The most passionate of all signs, Scorpios are known to have sex always on their mind.

Sagittarius:
When your lover is Sagittarius, sex is treated rather like a sport. Laughing and rough-housing are huge turn-ons. The best way to approach sex with these people is to just do it.

Capricorn:
When your lover is Capricorn, sex that is straightforward and simple is generally best. They can be quite happy with consistency, as variety is less important to them than is security in sexual expression. Do not expect any creative or zany positions, but expect it to be good.

Aquarius:
When your lover is Aquarius, there is a 'take it or leave it' style that can be sexy or maddening, depending on the audience. Sex from a distance, like cyber or phone sex, or affairs that don't break up marriages, can be especially attractive to these folks.

Pisces:
When your lover is Pisces, a subtle approach to flirting and sex is taken on. In general, they prefer non-verbal expressions of love and are attracted to imbalance. Self-sacrifice, compassion, and even religion can be mixed into their sexual expression.

(original article from the yahoo india website)

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Female - Inability to achieve Satisfaction?

In India Sexual problems in Women largely go unnoticed as they are either shared with friends or gynecologists. In both cases just a "pep talk" is offered in name of counseling or treatment. It's a reality that upto 20% of divorces are due to curable sexual problems in one of the partners. One of the commonest problems is in achieving an Orgasm or attaining a climax during sexual intercourse. 

Why is an Orgasm or climax needed?
The initiation of a sexual act drives the body of both males and females to release a lot of hormones. An orgasm is the complete utilization of these hormones to positively stimulate the entire brain-body mechanisms. Inability to achieve an orgasm or climax leads to a lot of free floating hormones that lead to negative stimulation of the brain-body, leading to excessive irritation, anxiety, anger, stomach troubles, increased heart beat, lack of happiness and clinical depression.

How does inability to achieve orgasm affect a relationship?
Every human being looks for sexual satisfaction. Inability to attain so, many women might withdraw from having physical intimacy with there husbands and achieve the same through external help like masturbation.
Lack of satisfactory physical relationship puts a major strain over the relationship as both the partners drift away from each other causing minor issues to become major fights between them. In many cases the fights increase to such an extent that it leads to divorce.

The most common reason for this is:
While men get pleasure from stimulation of Penis, women get the same from stimulation of clitoris. Most women who complain of incomplete sexual intercourse, happen to receive a lesser than normal stimulation of the clitoris.
Unfortunately due to popular belief and lack of information, many woman (from housewives, to lawyers to bankers) tend to blame their male partners for sexual incompetence.
Men who are refereed to as "superman in bed" are natural subconscious practitioners of complete clitoris stimulation. 

Solution?
1. Sex Positions- One of the most common reasons is sex-positions. Most people never experiment with their sex positions. A couple should find a sex position that's adequate to make sexual intercourse physically enjoyable and psychologically fulfilling for both partners.

So here are some sex positions that might help- 

1. A face-to-face position, but the man 'rides much higher' than he would in the missionary position so that his shoulders and head are about six inches higher up the bed than normal.
What this means is that his penis doesn't go all the way into the vagina. Instead, the stem or root of it is pulled hard against the clitoris – producing great sensations in that all-important little organ.

2. Woman on top position - The man lies down on his back. The sits down on his penis. Then, in her own time, she gradually lowers herself onto it. Giving her the freedom to adjust according to full clitorial stimulation.

3. Double Stimulation - It requires prior agreement by both partners. A manual clitorial stimulation by the male or female is done along with penial penetration of the vagina.
The male partner is normally standing while woman is lying down to perform this in unison.

4. The spoons position
A woman sidewise while the man makes a vagina entry from the rear side. Like a spoon next to a spoon.

There's no right or wrong way to have sex with a partner but it should be an exercise that helps in complete physical, emotional and psychological sexual satisfaction of both partners.

2. Relaxed Mind

Many times a woman's mind is occupied with excessive thoughts at the time of initiating sexual act. This confuses the subconscious mind and it leads to complete closure and withdrawal from the sexual act.

Sexual satisfaction is a birth right of every individual. Happiness can never be achieved without the same. It's better to consult a good professional and get the right information than leading a life of sadness and despair.

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6 foods that help you boost your sex life

They say sex is a great stressbuster. They are right because love-making has been found to relive the pressure of the burdens of life, ease stress, soothe chronic aches and pains, spur creativity and rev up the energy levels.
Experts say that anything that makes you feel good, alive and physically excited will make you feel as if you've shed years. And all these things are associated with sex.
You are probably aware of the basics of terrific sex, but let us suggest you a few aphrodisiacs which can add zing to your sex life.
1. Figs have been found to be brimming with minerals like magnesium, manganese and zinc and also Vitamin E. All of them can do wonders to spice up your sex life.

2. The flashy-red watermelons contain a substance called citrulline, which sends the body the signals to release arginine, which relaxes blood vessels. This produces an effect similar to Viagra. And need we give you details about what Viagra does?

3. You've tried whiskly, you've tried wine but didn't feel the buzz. Pick a bottle of champagne and feel the difference. It enters the bloodstream faster than the wine does, so make sure you don't drink too much of it. Many champagnes have been found to have the same amount of antioxidants as red wine.

4. The Red Hot Chilli Peppers can bring out the hotness in you. They help recreate the symptoms of arousal: flushed cheeks, a quiver on your tongue, and more kissable lips. They also up the heat in the body.

5. Cheese releases 10 times more endorphins than the great ol' aphrodisiac - Chocolate. It will help you set the right mood.
6. Chocolate has been your trusted friend when it comes to having a great sex. You just need to maintain the bond. Its aphrodisiac property has been ascribed to two chemicals. One, tryptophan, which is the building block of serotonin, a brain chemical involved in sexual arousal. And two, phenyethylamine, a stimulant.
So the kind of food we gorge upon can do wonders with our sex life. Right food can make you positively sexual

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