10 Sexual Problems Every Indian Couple Goes Through

As a Psychiatrist and Relationship Counselor I get the opportunity to meet a lot of people who are gracious enough to share with me, their deepest secrets.

SEX is one issue where both men and women are always hesitant to talk about.

Most of them, want to talk about it, but take sometime to be comfortable and open up their inner mind.

Restless thoughts regarding sex are like a monster that keeps eating the peace of mind, and that's why I encourage talking about your inner sexual feelings

The following statistics are a proof of how much Emotional Pain we could save the society from if we just spoke about SEX in a progressive way.

1. 54% men and 25% women think about sex on a daily basis. - Unable to express these thoughts leads to restlessness, anger and decreased concentration.

2. Average Married Indian couple has sex about 70-90 times a year.

At 1/3 of these encounters are a complete disaster with either one or both partners not being satisfied.

3. More than 80% women think of sexual activity as activity to prove they are loved.

4. More than 50% of women have fake an orgasm, just to keep their husband happy.

Many of these live under the "delusion" that they are able to satisfy not only their wife, but also go ahead and give wrong advice to other man

5. Lack of sexual satisfaction makes a woman feel unwanted, hopeless, restless and depressed.
Its one of the most common reasons for Clinically high levels of depression among married woman.

This is also one of the prime reasons for woman looking to have extra-marital relationships.

6. 80% of Men doubt their sexual capacity at least once in life. Most of them are not happy with their sexual performance, but scared to talk about the same to a professional.
Majority of the advice they get from friends, family or wife increases their restlessness.

7. 2/3 people feel they don't have enough satisfying sex. But lack of proper emotional communication leads to the same.

8. A great majority of men use sex as a way to show their "macho" or "male" supremacy over their female partner.
Henceforth sexual activity becomes a ego tussle.

9. Mutual respect plays a vital role in a satisfying sex life.
82% of sexually satisfied say they feel respected and loved by their partner during sex.

59% are looking for more love and romance in the act.

10. A great majority Indian males and females only focus on the sexual intercourse phase of sex.
Build-up, Fore-play, after-play, experimentation phases are never talked about.

Sex is a beautiful and divine activity. It's a gift of god to increase happiness, increase body immunity, decrease body pains provided it has the right mixture of LOVE to it..

If an individual is not Lovingly Sexually satisfied he/she will fall prey to psychological problems like restlessness, depression, sleep disturbance, body pains, masturbation addiction, pornography (both visual and reading) addiction, increased need to seek satisfaction outside relationship.

Dont just have sex... HAVE LOVING SEX..

for any further query feel free to email me-

Dr.Hemant Mittal
email - eksoch@gmail.com
www.mindmantra.in

Male Sexual Health - Does being Over-Weight Affect Your Sex Life?

India is slowly seeing an alarming rise in obesity specifically within the youth and middle-age group.

While obesity can be linked to many metabolic disorders, one of the main physical disabilities it causes is sexual dysfunctions.

How does obesity affect your sexual desires:

1. Body Image - if looking into the mirror makes you feel less desirable, imagine how your mind reacts when your making love. 

A unfavorable body image, creates a subconscious complex, which leads to decreased sex drive and poor sexual performance.

2. Diabetes - The biggest demon of modern life-style is diabetes. It's not only the sugar levels that increase in your blood that matter.. The blood vessels all over the body including the ones in your penis are affected. This eventually decreases blood supply to the penis, leading to decreased sexual performance.

3. Hormonal changes - Changes in weight can also mean changes in hormone levels, which can affect sex drive. All men convert testosterone (male sexual hormone) to another sex hormone called estradiol in our fat. And men who are overweight can get increased conversion. A decreased testosterone level further decreases sexual desires.

4. Stamina - Over-weight people have less stamina. As the blood requires more time to travel through the layers of fat, the sexual stamina decreases. 

5. Sexual Stress - Even one episode of poor sexual performance can increase the stress in your mind by 200 times. A constant failure due to over-weight can create non-stopping restlessness and trigger a stress-cycle that further decreases sexual drive.

Even a little bit of weight loss may give your love life a boost. Losing as little as 3-5kgs through diet and exercise could help your sexual life by many fold.

For any further information, contact me at- 

Dr.Hemant Mittal

email - eksoch@gmail.com

www.mindmantra.in

clinic address - mind mantra clinic, shreeji plaza, opposite seawoods station (east), nerul.

Masturbation Addiction

Statistics say 95% men and 87% women indulge in this activity at least once in their life...between age of 15-28yrs upto 30% get addicted to it... ironically an activity that gives instant pleasure is also one thats vastly misunderstood... Masturbation Addiction

1. What is Masturbation?

Masturbation is the self-stimulation of genitalia or sexual organs to achieve the height of sexual pleasure or orgasm.

2. Is it holy or unholy?

All religions call this an "unholy" behavior patter. Irrespective of it, everyone rich or poor, educated or uneducated, men or women, religious or atheist will try it more than once in their life.
Religions unfortunately end up creating irrational and stupid myths, fear and negative emotions related to it, which confuse an individual... It creates an undue fear that pushes one towards the addiction. 
Religions should use scientific knowledge to bring control onto addictions.

Myths like masturbation leads to weakness, decrease in bone density or can cause impotence are completely baseless and proven wrong by hundreds of professional medical studies.

Medically, when performed in a controlled and periodic way, its a very healthy process. It helps to release psychologically stored sexual feelings that are very intrusive and havoc causing inside an individuals mind. This even prevents thoughts of rape or sexual assault and cheating on their spouses from developing.

Like stagnant water, which when kept for many days becomes stale and putrid. Sperms stored inside the testis for long term decrease the fertile nature of the sexual organs. Hence masturbation provides a great mean to release the old and help in development of new.

3. What is Masturbation Addiction?

There is no standard definition for over-masturbation or excessive masturbation. Every individual is endowed with a specific reproductive power. 

Masturbation is considered healthy of releasing sexual feelings until it starts hampering your daily life.

When masturbation becomes a habit, it’s performed once every few days. This is a healthy process. But when the thoughts, images and need of masturbation starts to haunt an individual emotionally and psychologically it starts to become an addiction.

Like any other addiction, masturbation addiction once it sets in, leads to lot of physical and emotional complaints.

4. What are the symptoms?

You are most likely to be suffering from a Masturbation Addiction problem if you have 7 or more of the next 10 symptoms.

1. Performed on daily or for most of the days of a week
2. Masturbation is immediately or next day followed by excessive guilt and sadness.
3. Constant unsuccessful attempts to stop the habit. 
4. Even minor Sexual stimulation compels you to indulge in the act. If not done, extreme restlessness, anger or irritation is experience.
5. Productive or working hours of the day are spent thinking about it..
6. Decrease in concentration levels as mind is occupied with stress related to the same.
7. Once the urge to perform is triggered, one doesnt think about the time, place or person he/she is with. He/she just looks for means to perform the act.

8. New and More explicit sexually material is searched and needed for arousal. As older or softer sexual material doesn't give the same sexually arousing effect. 
9. Decreased social interaction specially with opposite gender members, because of the fear of sexually arousing negative thoughts or decreased sexual-confidence.
10. Sleep and appetite disturbance are seen due to the stress levels.

5. What are the harmful effects?
It can lead to behavioral, psychological and sexual effects as:
a. Masturbation in public places
b. Reliance on masturbation as the only way of sexual gratification. 
c. Harm or injuries to the genitals. 
e. Decreased sexual performance with partner. As masturbation is sought to be only way of satisfaction.
f. Inability to perform action or guilt of performing the same leads to continuous irritability and anger due to the high stress and anxiety levels.
g. Decreased concentration in daily activity as mind is preoccupied with thoughts of the same

6. How to treat it?a. You cannot treat it on your own. You can only identify that you have the problem. 
Most people lack the will power to exert self control, this further decreases their self image. its advised that professional help of a counselor, sexologist or psychiatrist is taken to help you battle this problem.

b. First step is the Identification of current stress levels an individual is facing with.
c. It has to be started with Counseling for stress levels. Specialized techniques are used to target the stress levels.
d. if a severe obsessive component is observed, it indicates hyperactivity in the sexual thoughts producing areas of the brain. Counseling, exercises and treatment for the same is available.



For any further Information or query feel free to consult me:
Dr.Hemant Mittal
Sex counselor - NeuroPsychiatrist
email - eksoch@gmail.com
website - www.mindmantra.in

Women – 20 Medical and Psychiatric facts about Sex.

“A powerful individual is one who is comfortable with his body”

Sex  is probably the most tabooed subject in our society. 90% of men and women are extremely shy to talk about it. As a sexual health counsellor at Mind Mantra Wellness Clinic, I have met thousands individuals (both men and women) who are going through extreme unhappiness because they haven’t been able to accept, express and enjoy their sexual desires.

 The following are essential medical facts that every man and woman in search of productive and stimulating sexual life, should be aware regarding the female sexual health:

1.     Women are more open to discuss about sex with their friends, than men. – Unfortunately as most of their friends also harbour half knowledge about it, this tends to propagate myths.

2.     A Higher number of women believe that sex is unholy. – If it was unholy, why would god let your body produce sex hormones which trigger desire and want.

3.     A woman takes between 10-12min to reach an orgasm – While a man take 3-5min. (what they show in porn movies is staged!!!)

4.     40% women accept to have or regularly masturbate. – The rest 60% suppress their desires. – It’s important to note that Continuous suppression of sexual desires, re-programs the body to think that sexual hormones are not required, henceforth decreasing the thoughts and want for sex in life.

5.     When women have an orgasm, their body secrete enormous amounts of oxytocin, also called “the bonding hormone”. This hormone is responsible for causing their brain to feel extremely attached to their partner. Hence sex carries an emotional significance to it.  Men don’t have the same, so sex is more of an exercise for them.

6.     84% women report to have sex simple to “keep the peace” or “Keep the husband happy” at home.

7.     More than 60% Indian woman have never experienced a complete pleasurable orgasm in their life.- Either they have never been thought the right way of having sex or their husbands are just focused onto intercourse. Remember sex is an exercise that’s much more than simple intercourse.

8.     Only 30% women reach orgasm during intercourse, compared to 75% men.

9.     60% women have faked an orgasm at some point of time in their lives.

10.   9 out of 10 sexually active women use a contraceptive method without consulting a professional. They mostly rely on friends and some elder family member to give them the information. – such information is 80% right, 20% wrong.

11.  For a woman to have an orgasm during sex, her amygdala of center for excessive thought generation must be turned off. Hence a woman who is extremely anxious, fearful, or spends too much time thinking might never reach an orgasm. – This is the major reason why most woman never achieve an orgasm and long for productive, fruitful and efficient sexual life.

12.  Upto 10% women have the need to of same-sex or “homosexual” attraction. This is much lower compared to upto 15-20% of males who feel the need for same.

13.  Upto 19% of women think about sex on a daily basis. – this category is dominated by either women with depression due to lack of complete sexual satisfaction by husband, woman with extremely high sexual desires due to medical problems like hypomania,  erotomania or nymphomania and woman with extremely high need to be centre of attraction.

14.  70% women would rather eat chocolate than have sex. – This reflects the poor quality of sexual life they are subjected to.

15.  In India Among contraceptives – The Pill is the most popular, followed by male condom, female condom and tubal sterilization.

16.  After 2^nd year of marriage, most women report to have sex only a handful number of times. – Among married woman, upto 10% have never had sex in the past year. About 30% have had it less than 15 times in the year.

17.  Most women agree that their most satisfying sexual experiences happen when they feel connected to someone, rather than solely based on physical satisfaction.

18.  Working women within the higher income bracket are more prone to seek and be involved with multiple sexual partners – as their brain utilises sex as stress reliever for them.

19.  Women with high “inferiority complex” and extremely high dependency needs are most liable to be subjected to perversions. Most common perversions include forced sexual encounters with family members and being accomplice of their husbands unnatural sexual practices.

20.  The break of trust by a boyfriend or husband can trigger a woman to utilize sex as an instrument for personal, physical and professional self-satisfaction.

If you have any sexual health related problem, don't hesitate, contact me immediately... ALL COMMUNICATIONS ARE KEPT SECRET.

Dr.hemant Mittal
Neuro-Behavioural Consultant, Sexual Health and Wellness Expert
(MBBS, PG.DPM, M.D.(Mind Mantra Wellness Concepts - Mumbai))

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